Not a performance. A system. There’s this old, dusty idea that femininity is something you put on, like a costume, a performance, a soft little show for the world. Cute. Decorative. Optional. The older I get, the more I realize…. Femininity is not a performance. It’s a technology. A whole operating system. A creative engine….
Tag: mental-health
The Art of Being Unapologetically Too Much
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes the world has been trying to shrink her. Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle with just a raised eyebrow, a “calm down,” a “you’re overreacting,” a “wow, that’s a lot.” Other times it’s blunt “You’re too emotional. Too sensitive. Too dramatic.” For years, I treated…
Welcome to the Revamp Era: The Blog Glow Up Nobody Warned You About
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she looks at her blog, her digital child, her creative scrapbook, her public diary she pretends isn’t a diary and realizes… “Oh. This isn’t me anymore. This is the ghost of a girl I’ve already outgrown.” My blog started as a cute little creative corner. A…
January Blues
“Because the sparkle sometimes may fade, the sass doesn’t have to.” – What I’ve been chanting to myself the last week. The holidays are over, the champagne bubbles are flat, and suddenly January feels like the awkward morning after a fabulous party and some poor but very fun choices. I’ve worn pajamas as regular clothes…
Why I Don’t Do Resolutions (And Why I Set Intentions Instead)
Resolutions never made sense to me. They always seemed like rules or like you were knowingly setting yourself up for failure. Every January, the world splits into 2 camps. The ones who furiously write down all their resolutions in their freshly bought planner and those who quietly judge them. It’s all about losing weight, writing…