Femininity as a Petty Science – It’s Not Mean, Just Delightfully Precise

There’s a special corner of femininity that isn’t soft, gentle, or nurturing. It’s strategic. It’s calculated. It’s the part of us that knows exactly how long to pause before hitting send, exactly how high to flip our hair, and exactly how to say “let me check my calendar” even though we have the emotional availability…

Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 14 Mini Series: Working With Editors Part 1

 The Vibe Check: How to Vet an Editor Before You Hand Them Your Heart and Your Manuscript Let’s be honest….there comes a moment in every writer’s life when you look at your manuscript, your messy, brilliant, over‑caffeinated child, and think, “Sweetie… you need professional help.” Not therapy though honestly, maybe that too, but editing. Real…

The Delulu Diaries: My Brain Said Red Flag, My Heart Said Plot Twist

Welcome back to The Delulu Diaries, a series dedicated to the tiny, glittery lies I tell myself to function as a person. It’s not about productivity or self-help, it’s more a field study of that feminine optimism I talked about before where I am documenting my rituals, fantasies, or even chaotic rebrands that carry me…

Femininity as a Creative Technology

Not a performance. A system. There’s this old, dusty idea that femininity is something you put on, like a costume, a performance, a soft little show for the world. Cute. Decorative. Optional. The older I get, the more I realize…. Femininity is not a performance. It’s a technology. A whole operating system. A creative engine….

The Art of Being Unapologetically Too Much

There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes the world has been trying to shrink her. Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle with just a raised eyebrow, a “calm down,” a “you’re overreacting,” a “wow, that’s a lot.” Other times it’s blunt “You’re too emotional. Too sensitive. Too dramatic.” For years, I treated…

The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly) — Series Introduction

Every era has its heroine. This one just happens to be a woman who is sincerely, wholeheartedly, aggressively trying… with results that remain unverified by independent sources. Think Olivia Pope meets a girl who just wants a nap, a hug, and a snack.  Welcome to The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly). A documentary…

Welcome to the Revamp Era: The Blog Glow Up Nobody Warned You About

There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she looks at her blog, her digital child, her creative scrapbook, her public diary she pretends isn’t a diary and realizes… “Oh. This isn’t me anymore. This is the ghost of a girl I’ve already outgrown.” My blog started as a cute little creative corner. A…