Welcome back to the digital wilderness. Today I’m venturing into one of the most unpredictable habitats known as modern anthropology. The group chat. A place where logic goes to nap, notifications multiply like fruit flies, and everyone is somehow both online and unavailable at the same time. A topic I am intimately familiar with as…
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Femininity as a Petty Science – It’s Not Mean, Just Delightfully Precise
There’s a special corner of femininity that isn’t soft, gentle, or nurturing. It’s strategic. It’s calculated. It’s the part of us that knows exactly how long to pause before hitting send, exactly how high to flip our hair, and exactly how to say “let me check my calendar” even though we have the emotional availability…
The Everyday Disney Villain Era, Vol. 2 Still In The Maleficent Era: The Dramatic Sleeper
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes she’s not “just tired” but she is, in fact, one REM cycle away from cursing an entire kingdom. And that, unfortunately for everyone around me, is my natural resting state. Welcome to my Maleficent Era that I’m still in, where I require ten uninterrupted…
Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 14 Mini Series: Working With Editors Part 1
The Vibe Check: How to Vet an Editor Before You Hand Them Your Heart and Your Manuscript Let’s be honest….there comes a moment in every writer’s life when you look at your manuscript, your messy, brilliant, over‑caffeinated child, and think, “Sweetie… you need professional help.” Not therapy though honestly, maybe that too, but editing. Real…
Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 13 Mini Series: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback
“What to Do With Feedback: Sorting, Sifting, Fixing, and Staying Sane” Welcome to the final chapter of our three‑week journey through the wild, wonderful world of beta readers. You’ve found your readers. You’ve survived the waiting. You’ve opened the feedback without crying into a pillow (or maybe you did….no judgment). Now comes the part no…
The Delulu Diaries: My Brain Said Red Flag, My Heart Said Plot Twist
Welcome back to The Delulu Diaries, a series dedicated to the tiny, glittery lies I tell myself to function as a person. It’s not about productivity or self-help, it’s more a field study of that feminine optimism I talked about before where I am documenting my rituals, fantasies, or even chaotic rebrands that carry me…
Femininity as a Creative Technology
Not a performance. A system. There’s this old, dusty idea that femininity is something you put on, like a costume, a performance, a soft little show for the world. Cute. Decorative. Optional. The older I get, the more I realize…. Femininity is not a performance. It’s a technology. A whole operating system. A creative engine….
The Art of Being Unapologetically Too Much
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes the world has been trying to shrink her. Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle with just a raised eyebrow, a “calm down,” a “you’re overreacting,” a “wow, that’s a lot.” Other times it’s blunt “You’re too emotional. Too sensitive. Too dramatic.” For years, I treated…
The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly) — Series Introduction
Every era has its heroine. This one just happens to be a woman who is sincerely, wholeheartedly, aggressively trying… with results that remain unverified by independent sources. Think Olivia Pope meets a girl who just wants a nap, a hug, and a snack. Welcome to The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly). A documentary…
Welcome to the Revamp Era: The Blog Glow Up Nobody Warned You About
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she looks at her blog, her digital child, her creative scrapbook, her public diary she pretends isn’t a diary and realizes… “Oh. This isn’t me anymore. This is the ghost of a girl I’ve already outgrown.” My blog started as a cute little creative corner. A…