Welcome back to the lab, babes. Here’s where I try to improve my life but with a little bit of humility and a lot of humor. Today’s research site: my life. Today’s research question: Why do I keep choosing vibes over logic like it’s a personality trait and not a cry for help? Today’s hypothesis:…
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Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 13 Mini Series: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback Part 2
“What to Expect When You’re Expecting… Feedback” Welcome back to our three-part deep dive into the glamorous, gritty, occasionally soul shaking world of beta readers. Last week, we talked about finding them….like dating, but with fewer cocktails and more Google Docs. This week? We’re talking about what happens after you hit send. This is the…
The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Enlightenment, Vol. 2. Manifestation for People Who Forget to Manifest
A Lazy Girl’s Guide to Letting the Universe Do Most of the Work There are two types of manifestors in this world….the girlies with vision boards, moon calendars, and a five step scripting ritual, and then there’s the rest of us. The ones who remember we’re supposed to be manifesting only when something mildly inconvenient…
Femininity as a Creative Technology
Not a performance. A system. There’s this old, dusty idea that femininity is something you put on, like a costume, a performance, a soft little show for the world. Cute. Decorative. Optional. The older I get, the more I realize…. Femininity is not a performance. It’s a technology. A whole operating system. A creative engine….
Killer Heels Saturdays — Ch 13: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback…Part 1
Let’s talk about the moment every writer simultaneously dreams of and dreads…the day you hand your book baby to strangers and whisper, “Please love her but also tell me everything that’s wrong with her.” Welcome to the glamorous, terrifying, absolutely essential world of beta readers. This is Part I of our three‑week deep dive into…
The Art of Being Unapologetically Too Much
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes the world has been trying to shrink her. Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle with just a raised eyebrow, a “calm down,” a “you’re overreacting,” a “wow, that’s a lot.” Other times it’s blunt “You’re too emotional. Too sensitive. Too dramatic.” For years, I treated…
The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly) — Series Introduction
Every era has its heroine. This one just happens to be a woman who is sincerely, wholeheartedly, aggressively trying… with results that remain unverified by independent sources. Think Olivia Pope meets a girl who just wants a nap, a hug, and a snack. Welcome to The Girl Who Was Doing Her Best (Allegedly). A documentary…
Killer Heels Saturdays: Ch-12 First Drafts Are Like Scuffed Heels
Let’s get one thing straight…the myth of the perfect first draft is right up there with the myth of comfortable stilettos. Cute idea. Never been real. Every time I open a blank document, the cursor blinks at me like it’s filing a complaint with HR. Suddenly I’m convinced I’ve never had a single coherent thought…
Things I’m Dramatically Obsessed With For No Reason
Let’s be clear….none of these things are life changing. None of them are essential. None of them have earned the chokehold they have on my daily existence. And yet… Here I am. Dramatically obsessed. Fully committed. No explanation offered. No explanation needed. Reality TV (specifically Real Housewives of Rhode Island + The City + The…
THE EVERYDAY DISNEY VILLAIN ERA: Episode 1-Maybe I Can Relate to Maleficent
Welcome to The Everyday Disney Villain Era, where your life is less “hero’s journey” and more “mildly inconvenienced sorceress with a flair for ambiance.” This is not about being evil. This is about being theatrical. It’s about embracing the tiny, petty, dramatic behaviors that turn your daily life into a PG‑13 villain origin story, complete…
