There’s a very specific kind of exhaustion that comes with lupus. It’s the kind that doesn’t care how early you went to bed, how many naps you took, or how many times you whispered “I’m fine” to your reflection. It’s the kind of tiredness that lives in your bones. When you add pain, inflammation, and…
ADHD Society: The Emotional Whiplash Hour
aka: “I’m not dramatic. My neurotransmitters are.” There’s a very specific moment in the ADHD day and it’s usually sometime between “I’m fine” and “why did that text sound weird”….where your entire emotional landscape decides to reenact a Fast & Furious chase scene. One minute you’re chilling, scrolling, vibing. The next minute you’re crying because…
Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 13 Mini Series: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback
“What to Do With Feedback: Sorting, Sifting, Fixing, and Staying Sane” Welcome to the final chapter of our three‑week journey through the wild, wonderful world of beta readers. You’ve found your readers. You’ve survived the waiting. You’ve opened the feedback without crying into a pillow (or maybe you did….no judgment). Now comes the part no…
The Delulu Diaries: My Brain Said Red Flag, My Heart Said Plot Twist
Welcome back to The Delulu Diaries, a series dedicated to the tiny, glittery lies I tell myself to function as a person. It’s not about productivity or self-help, it’s more a field study of that feminine optimism I talked about before where I am documenting my rituals, fantasies, or even chaotic rebrands that carry me…
The Chaos Anthropologist: Vol. 2 – A Field Study on Why I Keep Choosing Vibes Over Logic
Welcome back to the lab, babes. Here’s where I try to improve my life but with a little bit of humility and a lot of humor. Today’s research site: my life. Today’s research question: Why do I keep choosing vibes over logic like it’s a personality trait and not a cry for help? Today’s hypothesis:…
Killer Heels Saturdays — Chapter 13 Mini Series: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback Part 2
“What to Expect When You’re Expecting… Feedback” Welcome back to our three-part deep dive into the glamorous, gritty, occasionally soul shaking world of beta readers. Last week, we talked about finding them….like dating, but with fewer cocktails and more Google Docs. This week? We’re talking about what happens after you hit send. This is the…
The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Enlightenment, Vol. 2. Manifestation for People Who Forget to Manifest
A Lazy Girl’s Guide to Letting the Universe Do Most of the Work There are two types of manifestors in this world….the girlies with vision boards, moon calendars, and a five step scripting ritual, and then there’s the rest of us. The ones who remember we’re supposed to be manifesting only when something mildly inconvenient…
Femininity as a Creative Technology
Not a performance. A system. There’s this old, dusty idea that femininity is something you put on, like a costume, a performance, a soft little show for the world. Cute. Decorative. Optional. The older I get, the more I realize…. Femininity is not a performance. It’s a technology. A whole operating system. A creative engine….
Killer Heels Saturdays — Ch 13: Beta Readers, Sensitivity Readers & the Power of Feedback…Part 1
Let’s talk about the moment every writer simultaneously dreams of and dreads…the day you hand your book baby to strangers and whisper, “Please love her but also tell me everything that’s wrong with her.” Welcome to the glamorous, terrifying, absolutely essential world of beta readers. This is Part I of our three‑week deep dive into…
The Art of Being Unapologetically Too Much
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes the world has been trying to shrink her. Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle with just a raised eyebrow, a “calm down,” a “you’re overreacting,” a “wow, that’s a lot.” Other times it’s blunt “You’re too emotional. Too sensitive. Too dramatic.” For years, I treated…
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